So you’re engaged, congratulations! Okay maybe you’re not engaged… yet. Either way, we all want to look our best on our wedding day (those of us who want to get married anyway, I don’t want to make assumptions here). Finding the perfect wedding dress is an important part the wedding planning process. Seriously, is your dream wedding even realized without that special dress that makes you look like a dream?
As a bridal consultant, I’ve come across many brides-to-be who have proven just how daunting and confusing wedding dress shopping can be. With so many options to choose from and so many opinions to consider (insert deep sigh), I can understand why the process causes some brides a bit of stress. Fear not, because there are simple rules that will ensure that your dream wedding does not turn into a nightmare! Read on and remember
Have a budget
This is important! Matter of fact, apply this rule to your entire wedding planning process. The last thing you want is to start your marriage off with debt constantly tugging at you. There are truly more important things to invest your money in, remember that when setting your budget. Do some research and find out how much the style of dress you want costs and work from there. Set a maximum amount for yourself and stick to it. You will be tempted, but be honest with yourself and don’t be gullible. Keep in mind whether or not you want to have a dress made especially for you, simply buy or just hire.
To custom-make or not to custom-make…
Budget and time will be great determining factors here. Consider how much you’re willing to spend on a bespoke dress, and ask yourself if you have enough time until the wedding to make this happen. If you’re safe and really want a dress designed just for you, get the right designer to make it. Make sure your designer is experienced in bridal wear and knows what they’re doing. I’ve heard so many horror stories! If you’re uncertain, stick to buying or hiring your dress. Your life will be easier choosing a finished dress than crossing fingers hoping it turns out right anyway.
Keep an open mind
Know what you want but don’t be afraid to try new things. Go online and get a feel of what you’d like to wear before you visit bridal boutiques… consider the silhouette, wedding theme, colour and fabrication. Chances are you’ll know what you like when you see it, but accept that you might be wrong. Your style of dress might not work for your height or shape, so keep an open mind. Don’t close yourself off completely to something different, you might just be pleasantly surprised.
The little things matter
Don’t forget the details. Your shoes and underwear can make or break your look. Wear the right underwear for the style of dress you want, wear the right shoes for the style of dress you want. Bring these along for your fittings, and make sure you feel comfortable! You will be in that outfit the whole day, so comfort matters a lot.
Family and friends
So maybe your mother-in-law has offered to make a dress for you, but you know she’s no designer (awkward silence), or maybe your mother has been saving her wedding dress from 30 years ago just for you (awkward silence). Look, your family dynamics might be tricky, and sure you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings but just be honest! When dealing with family, the truth will set you free… be nice about it though… as nice as you can be. It is your day after all, those who love you will want to see you happy. Dress shopping is much more fun with friends and family. Their opinions will give you a fresh perspective, so bring them along.
Yes, have fun and enjoy the process. Don’t let the little obstacles get to you so much that you don’t even enjoy the beautiful journey leading to your wedding day. Enjoy every moment.
Yours in ✍🏾