Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
Listen, right? If you were going for a swim in an ocean, which you know is infested with sharks, would you take advice from someone who sunbathes on the shore or from one who has been in the water, got attacked by a shark, escaped unscathed and lived to tell the tale? Me too, I’d take the latter’s advice. I am that survivor and I have a tale. More than the tale, I want to share some advice on shark-detection and how to steer clear of an attack!
Let me be frank (some of you will laugh at my choice of adjective 🙂), but God’s word is clear. There are no ifs and buts about what He expects from His children and the obedience that is required of us if we call ourselves Sons and Daughters of God. ‘Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.’ 2 Corinthians 6:14. This verse has far reaching connotations and applications, but I want to apply it to choosing a life partner. In this regard, we are not left to our own devices, because if we applied this verse to finding Mr or Miss Right, we would be well on our way to happy endings.
In a nutshell – I dabbled in shark infested waters, took the bait, was almost shipwrecked – Lifesaver God to the rescue, escaped unscathed and here I am to offer some pearls of wisdom.
1. Pack the picnic basket like you would prepare for a journey because that’s what marriage is – seek out God’s desires for you. Believe, have faith and research what the will of God is for your life because the desires of our hearts are mostly selfish – 1 Thessalonians 5:14-23. Do your prep work. Lay a foundation for your future with God as the Designer. Don’t go in blindly with rose tinted glasses, believing promises made by your intended partner – there are sharks out there!
2. Don’t build sandcastles in the air. If he/she does not have the same belief system as you, ie. has an opposing theology, doctrine or insight into God’s word, DON’T. GO. THERE! It is not your job to change anyone. Sow the seed and walk away. Don’t waste precious time trying to change anyone, that’s the work of the Holy Spirit. If you’re a youth reading this, know this: the years fly by so quickly after a certain age, and if you’re like me, you’ll regret you never consulted God on a decision as major as this.
3. Put on your lifejacket. “Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” Ephesians 6:11. I like that King James Version word ‘wiles’, because that is exactly what Satan is, he is wiley! He is so deceptive! He can make things look so close to the real thing, that if you haven’t done points 1 and 2 above, you will be deceived!
4. Swim with the dolphins, there is safety in staying with the pack. Don’t dare to venture out on your own. Heed the advice from Godly sources; God’s word, family, church family or concerned individuals. God speaks through different channels.
5. SWIM TO THE SHORE! If you sense any danger at all, if things don’t sit well with you, if you hear warning bells, if you see signs, if things don’t add up – SWIM, SWIM, SWIM AWAY!
We live in a sinful world and sin affects us all. We have a Saviour who is The God of Second Chances. He waits with open arms to accept the repentant sinner, to forgive, cleanse, renew and then to shower with “every good and perfect gift” – James 1:17. There is joy and faith-building in obedience. There is transformation and restoration in Jesus. Perfect Love awaits…
Prayer: Lord, please help me to surrender my will and consult with you in the big and little decisions I have to make daily. Prepare my future husband/wife as I wait for you to reveal him/her to me in your wisdom and perfect timing. Amen 🙏🏾