We all value the prospect of finding love. But have you ever stopped to consider how you want to be loved? What do you value as an expression of love – is it a hug, kind words or a thoughtful gift?
In any romantic relationship, knowing how to show and be shown love is just as important as there being genuine emotion.
Knowing your own love language can help you express yourself better to your partner and helps them understand your needs, which in turn makes for much less friction and misunderstanding and more time for appreciation of one another.
Dr. Gary Chapman first introduced the concept of the 5 Love Languages in his 90s book titled: ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’.
In it, he explains the different ways in which people appreciate to be shown love. He narrows it down to this:
1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: This love language is all about expression of feelings verbally. People of this language appreciate kind words and compliments which are meaningful.
2. ACTS OF SERVICE: People who believe “actions are louder than words” fit this profile. Even small acts such as opening the door, washing the dishes, or running a bath mean the world to them when done with the intention to ease the burden off your significant other and not out of obligation.
3. RECEIVING GIFTS: Gifts are generally expected on special occasions like anniversaries or birthdays. For this profile, receiving small, thoughtful gifts more often really makes them feel special.
4. QUALITY TIME: People in this profile really appreciate undivided attention. Alone time with their significant other is very valuable to them.
5. PHYSICAL TOUCH: These people appreciate being held, touched and kissed often to feel emotionally connected. This may not necessarily be public displays of affection, but it definitely needs to be often.
This love-month, spend some time learning more about your own and your partner’s love language to deepen those bonds – Happy Valentines Day ❣️