So the year is finally coming to a close and I don’t know how ya’ll feel about that but I’m feeling pretty good. Not great but better than I felt at the closing of last year. It’s crazy isn’t it, that so much can happen in 365 days, okay maybe not crazy because to be fair 365 days is a long time. But literally, your whole life could change in 365 days for better or for worse (I’m hoping it’s better though). I had a lot of hurdles to face in 2016, a few in 2017 but mostly 2016 so I know the feeling of ‘for worse..’. I know the feeling of a great big shit storm just washing over all areas of my life, I’ve been there and I thought I wouldn’t make it out alive – BUT I DID. It always feels like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel and it can only get worse from year to year. But it does get better, I know ya’ll didn’t ask but I’m letting you know anyway that there is in fact a light at the end of the tunnel.
There’s a saying in IsiZulu that goes “Imnyaka ayifani..” which simply means that not every year will be the same, which is true. Last year (2016) was a complete and utter mess and this year was a bit of sunshine (I don’t want to overestimate my position until it’s the 31st of December). But it’s true, sometimes the odds just seem to be unfavorable in all ways possible, it happens to the best of us. Sometimes we set new years resolutions and circumstances don’t even allow us to achieve a single one.
It’s okay to face challenges and get knocked down. Life is all about living and learning. In order to live we need to learn. I know how discouraged I was last year when life wasn’t coming together. But it does, it really does and when it does – it’ll be worth the pain. The only thing that kept me going during my difficult year was knowing that I could BEGIN AGAIN. This year might not have been the year for you and that sucks. I’m sorry that you were expecting a whole lot more than what life offered you this year, I’m sorry for any disappointments and hurts that you’ve faced this year but you have another 365 days ahead of you to BEGIN AGAIN.
My Top 5 begin again:
- Set realistic goals – don’t aim to go to the moon when you haven’t even left your home town yet. set achievable and worthwhile short-term goals so you can have plenty victories.
- Forget the past – Forget what has happened this year. What’s done is done and cannot be undone. Worrying about what has happened will not help you with what must happen.
- No bad vibes – No negative people around to remind you of who you were and what you did..
- Be happy – Wake each morning with something to be happy about, life a happy life and spread happiness because you know what it feels like to be unhappy.
- Exercise – Exercise is such a good way of keeping fit and also blowing off steam. Whatever tension or challenges you face on a daily basis can be confronted with a workout session, trust me I know this.
“The old has gone, behold the new has began..” No matter how hard the past was, you can always begin again. See ya’ll next year, God is love and love is real.
KADAN – (n) “where the heart lies”, an all-purpose word for a person one cares about, including friends, family and loved ones.